How to Spice Up Your Relationship After Giving Birth


Having a baby was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. No one could prepare me for what I felt during labor. The pain came in waves and I kept thinking that I had never felt something so terrible in my life. I couldn’t even believe how waves of pain came over and over, and then I decided to have an epidural, and all the sudden felt nothing. I don’t remember if after I got the epidural I fell asleep, or I just zoned out, but I remember not being able to feel anything and begging the doctors to wait just a bit for feeling to return before I actually started the delivery session. Finally, I had my daughter and I was so happy!! And I was simply exhausted. After the first 24-28 hours, we all got to go home.

Then it was harder than I had imagined it would be…

If you’re a new mom, you probably completely understand how difficult it can be once you arrive home. You’re looking for love, attention, and support to help you get through the rough times ahead, both in your new motherhood journey and in your relationship.

I’ve gotten together some great tips to help you spice up your relationship after giving birth.How to Spice Up Your Relationship After Giving Birth (3)Since you’re probably feeling a bit traumatized by the entire experience, one of the best things you can do for yourself and your partner is to make sure that you get REALLY good rest when you get a chance to sleep. One way to do this is by getting a new mattress. Mattresses are supposed to be changed every 8 years, but if you’ve just had a baby and are not getting the rest that you need, it’s a great idea to get a brand new mattress.

The difference that this can make to your quality of life and your relationship will be incredible. There’s really no way to enjoy time with your partner if you both are unable to get the best sleep possible because your mattress is old or makes you uncomfortable. Since you aren’t pregnant anymore, you’ll likely be sleeping differently and the pain of nursing on your back is terrible. No one could have possibly prepared me for how much pain I would be in from nursing and simply feeling like my back had changed. Truth be told, your back goes through so much during the entire pregnancy and birth process. Getting a new mattress can be a key to feeling better after you have baby. I know that it really helped me. My parents took me to the mall and helped me pick out a great mattress as a present after I had my daughter.

Stores like Macy’s can have incredible deals on mattresses, and they can be easily shipped straight to your home.

Another great mattress company is Yaasa their mattresses are made to order and come with a 100-night risk-free trial. You can get $50 off a new mattress using my link. Yaasa Mattress

One thing that I love to do, is to get some super plush pillows and bedding. I am such a fan of Horchow bedding, and I also really love the selection at Wayfair. I was really happy recently when I applied for my Neiman Marcus card and found out that you can use your card at Horchow. Even though I am a diehard fan of Horchow, it’s a bit pricey so depending on how long I plan to use the pillows and bedding sets, I’ll purchase those at Macy’s too.

My hubby loves the bedding sets at Macy’s, especially the Calvin Klein and Ralph Lauren sets, so that is a favorite of ours for purchasing plush pillows to relax in at night.




After you’ve taken care of the basics by ensuring that you’re well-rested, plan a couple of great date nights.

Dolled Up for Date Night

These can be different from the norm, but make sure that you’ve got some cute new clothes that make you feel beautiful.

Pick out a couple of new dresses that make you look gorgeous and enjoy a night at a classy restaurant.

This floral off the shoulder dress from Charlotte Russe will show off your feminity and accentuate your shoulders and face.

Floral Dress


It comes just above the knees and looks great with a colorful pump. A dress like this will really get a date night going in the right direction.

Also, try a pastel dress, like this one, which looks super dreamy. I love the way this dress fits.


Another option would be a nice jumpsuit if you are nervous about wearing a dress or are looking for a fabulous fun outfit option. These also make it easy to nurse if you are taking the baby along with you to dinner.

This red one, also from Charlotte Russe is very sexy and is a great option for an enjoyable date afternoon/ evening. Charolette Rouse Red JumpSuit

Still have a bit of a baby bump? Try this sexy little black dress from Isabella Oliver. Isabella Oliver is a luxury, mom-friendly, maternity wear designer who’s known for their quality high fashion designs for pregnant moms.

This LBD is very flattering and provides coverage in all the right places. It’s perfect for date-night with the hubby.

Isabella Oliver

I highly recommend getting some fabulous new skin care items to treat yourself, and also to enjoy getting dolled up with. I am such a fan of pink lipgloss, so the Covergirl Exhibitionist in  Lipstick Cream, Yummy Pink 380, is perfect for me.

Covergirl Pink Lipgloss

Getting a healthy glow can help you feel more confident both in the bedroom and out. The Sugar Baby Wash Off Bronzing Moisturizer is perfect for achieving a subtle sexy glow while providing your skin with extra moisture to ensure you have soft touchable skin.

Sugar Baby Wash Off Bronzing Moisturizer Cream

Date Night Details

If you are considering having a few drinks during date night, but are worrying about your breast milk supply make sure that you pump and dump if you are drinking. I highly recommend the Medela Freestyle Double Electric Breast Pump. It was seriously a lifesaver for me and it comes with a nice carrying bag that you can take with you when you go out. It isn’t the most stylish, but it is sleek and comes in black. Breastpumps are basically necessary to help you extend your breast milk supply and give you some time to enjoy yourself as well. You can do what I did and pump and supplement with a formula that is specifically made for moms who also breastfeed. I used the Gerber Good Start, Gentle Supplementing, which helps breastfeeding moms out in a pinch when they can’t breastfeed.

If you have someone willing to help you out with childcare that’s awesome, but if you want to or have to take a baby with you on your date, it can be equally as special. Make sure you come prepared with everything you’ll need throughout the night so your date runs smoothly and you don’t have to stop at the grocery store for diapers or wipes!

If you are looking for a cuter bag for date night, consider the Kate Spade Adaira Baby Bag, in Stucco. It’s a great print with cute color blocks on the front and will help you feel more properly accessorized for a night out.

Kate Spade New York Baby Bag

Getting Back in The Groove

After you’ve had a baby it might feel difficult to get back in the groove with your partner. There are a couple of things that you can do to help set the mood, and ease back into enjoying the bedroom with your significant other.

  1. Light some candles– lighting candles really helps to set the mood and make the environment more sexy and romantic. This will help you feel more comfortable. A good option for a sexy date night would be the Massage Candle by Kama Sutra, this candle actually turns into warm massage oil which will feel ohh so perfect for a tired momma, and help you get in the mood with your partner. This one comes in a set of three candles. Ignite by Kama SutraI also love the Shunga candles. Shunga is an amazing brand, their products are very high quality, like Kama Sutra, and the candles have a subtle aphrodisiac which helps to set the mood in the bedroom and increase your feelings and desire. I like the Caress by Candlelight Massage Candle in Aphrosisia/Roses, for the beautiful light smell and the candle itself is quite attractive. Shunga Candle
  2. Enjoy Massage– Massage is a great way to spice things up with your partner. It helps you to relax after a busy day and gives you time to appreciate each other. One of the benefits of massage is increased circulation and improve physical and mental health. Massage also helps to keep your body in optimum health, which is very important for new moms. You can use it as a way to reconnect and experience comforting touch. Get a high-quality massage oil, like the Shunga Erotic Massage Oil which is made with super silky luxurious oil, it also comes with fragrances that help set the mood. Shunga Erotic Massage Oil
  3. Take a Romantic Trip– Nothing is better to set the mood than taking a romantic trip with your partner. Spend a week at a luxury resort, like the Island Seas Resort in Grand Bahamas.  This would be a great way to surprise your family and enjoy some quality time with your loved ones.

    Or enjoy a fun weekend trip to the city. NYC is a great place to enjoy a romantic weekend get-a-way. A great place to find fun tours is with New York Night Life, they offer pre-arranged “events” like a  Romantic Sunset Jazz Cruise, or if you’ve missed partying for 9 months you could splurge and enjoy a VIP Exclusive Night Club Experience.Sunset Jazz CruiseOne reason New York is perfect for a couple’s get-away is that it is full of fun things to do, like shopping, restaurants, hotels, and tourist destinations, another is because it’s a great place to try new things, like a Broadway performance. You can see incredible shows and enjoy comedy clubs. The NYC nightlife is awesome.

  4. Talk more with your partner- If you are looking to strengthen your connection with your partner and want to improve the bond, it’s important to spend time talking with your spouse. The past 9-10 months have probably been very overwhelming, and likely your spouse needs some help processing everything that’s happened as well. In order to help your relationship blossom, make sure to spend time talking with your partner every day. Don’t hit the sheets and just pass out, make sure that you go over your day and how things worked out or didn’t and keep communication not judgemental and open.

If you need more serious help with this, you can try making it a game, consider using the Couple’s Kindle Cards, which have fun weekly action steps you can take to improve your relationship. Couples Kindle Cards

These cards provide a year-long strategic plan for helping you get your relationship back on track and they help you to create more emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship. It is really important that you both feel supported and nurtured after you’ve added a new member to the family.

Just remember, it can be difficult to be romantic after you’ve had your baby. Be gentle with yourself and talk things out with your partner if you need support.


4 Tricks I used to Breastfeed The Entire First Year

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Keeping up a steady supply of breastmilk can be difficult, but it is not impossible. I was excited to start breastfeeding when I first had my daughter. In fact, I started breastfeeding right from when she was born. I didn’t experience too much trouble getting my latch correct immediately after my daughter was born. Even though it was pretty painful at first.

In order to keep my breast milk supply steady throughout my daughters entire first year, I used the following methods:

  1. Increased my water intake and stayed hydrated. One of the most important things I did to increase my milk supply was to stay hydrated. I used some pretty unusual methods to make sure that my body was completely hydrated, including visiting a local drip bar. A drip bar is where they give you IV fluids, usually mixed with vitamin C and other vitamins, to help you achieve maximum hydration. They aren’t like going to the hospital, in fact, they are very plush, usually, they have big comfortable lazy boy chairs, blankets, and hot green tea, while you wait. They also have registered nurses to administer the IV’s so it is safe and you are monitored the entire time. This really helped me maintain my milk supply, especially later as the year went on. Using a water bottle with fruit infusion is another great way to get a ton of important vitamins and minerals, I recommend the Hydracy Water bottle for a good option for infusing different fruits into your water, for maximum hydration. Plus it comes with an eBook with recipes for creating neat vitamin-infused water creations.  Hydracy Water Bottle 1
  2. Worked out regularly. I went to the gym or went for long walks with the stroller regularly. I purchased a jogging stroller, which was absolutely incredible for walks to the park and for walking around the mall.  I worked at BuyBuyBaby during my pregnancy so I learned a lot about strollers, and the ones that I would recommend are the Maxi-Cosi Zelia 5-In-One Modular Travel System which comes with a car seat for baby, it’s a bit pricey, but has everything you need and makes travel and walking easy and fun. MaxiCosie JoggerMy other favorite jogger is the Joovy Zoom 360 Ultralight Jogging Stroller, in red. I loved my red baby stroller. It’s nice and bright and made me want to get moving! Jovy ZoomAlso, I love the Jilian Michaels workout program. It lets you workout from your android or iPhone anywhere anytime. Jilian Michals is so inspirational to me, I highly recommend her program, and you can get a free 7 Day trial when you sign up with my link! She even has a program called Yeah Baby! Which is for expecting moms to be, and guides you through working out through all 9 months of your pregnancy.

  3. Pumped Extra Milk– Pumping extra milk after I breastfed, helped me to keep my supply high. I used a great double pump which made it quick and easy. I used the Medela Sonata Smart Breast Pump. This pump was literally a lifesaver. It was comfortable and helped me make extra milk to add to homemade baby food and save for extra feedings. Medla Breast Pump
  4. Lactation Cookies- I regularly ate lactation cookies to help me increase my milk supply. They actually taste pretty good and are a great treat. Hey, if you are going to have cookies, why not have cookies that will help you and baby right? I would highly suggest grabbing a couple of bags of these to keep around the house to grab when you want a sweet treat. These really help you to keep up milk supply while you’re breastfeeding.  I like the Milkful Lactation Bars. They are super yummy and filling too.



Breastfeeding can be a struggle, but there are some good ideas and tips to get through it, make sure you don’t wear bras that are too tight, eat and drink ALOT, and exercise regularly to help your body improve circulation. Try not to get upset if your milk production isn’t super high, just keep up the pumping and regularly offer your baby milk.

For more information check out The Nursing Mother’s Companion, which is also available on Amazon Kindle.

The Nursing Mothers Companion

This is available on Amazon Kindle, so is the blog!


Let me know if you have any other suggestions in the comments that might help others with their breastfeeding journey!


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10 Ways to Focus on Income Producing Activities and How This Creates Success

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Income Producing activities are activities that will lead to an influx of income.  It can sometimes be difficult because you may become overwhelmed with various to-dos,  especially if you are a stay at home mom, opening a new business,  or in a sales job.

Sometimes you may get caught up in spending a lot of time on social media,  getting headshots for your company,  spending time with a success coach or trying to learn a new skill,  or just pushing out content on your blog. After all of your work you realize that you are left with no money,  because you’ve lost focus on your income producing activities.


The Frustration is Real!

A good rule to remember is to spend at least half or preferrably 75% of your time on activities that are sure to boost your available,  fluid income.

Here is my list of ten ways to help you keep your focus on income generating activities:

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1. Make a money goal.  Decide how much money you want to make each day,  and figure out what it will take for you to reach your goal.

I recommend getting Grant Cardone’s Millionare Booklet which will give you a good guide for income goals,  for each day,  week,  month etc to help you stay focused on these goals.

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Here is a link to a recent YouTube video,  I did about Grant Cardones Booklet.  

2. Keep track of your money.  Also known as budgeting or balanced budgeting.  This is where you keep track of how much money you are spending and how much money you have coming in.  Putting your attention on money is a great way to help your abundance mindset.  This will also help keep you focused on bringing in the dough.  What about if you are in direct sales and you have 3 new sign-ups,  have you reached out to them? Make sure your sales team is reaching their goals.  And keep track of when you have income coming in, both big bursts of income and small. I recommend using a budgeting planner like this, one- Your Balanced Budget Planner, which is spiral bound and allows you to enter your daily income and expenses.

Your Balanced Budget Tracker

3. Focus on your one on one time with clients. Advertising is great,  but new client sales is even better.  If you are spending more time trying to advertise your services on social media than you are doing one on one client pitches,  your probably missing out on generating income.  Focus more energy on sending new writing pitches,  talking to actual clients and asking them to buy than you do on just telling the universe about your service.  Generate income and push that income into advertising.  A great idea is to hire someone to do the advertising for you,  like a virtual assistant,  and focus only on signing new deals.  If you are a writer and wanting help learning how to make money with your writing, and how to successfully pitch your work,  I suggest signing up for Elna Cain’s Write to 1K course for freelance writers.  

4. Selling new products.  It is important to remember to spend a bit of time each week on acquiring a few new products to add to items your selling.  For example,  if you have a great selling eBook,  consider spending time creating one more.  If you make money selling on eBay,  add more listings.  If you are already making money with a great book,  instead of focusing on more advertising write another one. Try using SendOwl to add the power of affiliate marketing to your digital products.

5. Keep Track on Trello Boards. I like to keep all my jobs on a board on Trello.  My jobs are things that produce income for me.  It could be a job I go to everyday,  items I can sell to increase my income,  side gigs and hustles I do,  my stocks,  my income and my referral income.  That way you can go instantly to your Trello board,  and see where to put your focus.

6. Focus on your leads.  If you are beating yourself upside the head over generating more income,  or getting lost in the social media shuffle.  Spend some time on generating leads,  and following up.  Make a list of who is interested in your product.  Make your list of 100 people who you know.  Actually contact people who comment on your social posts,  they are warmer leads than staring at your computer feeling stuck.  Has a recruiter contacted you lately?  Have you been requested on LinkedIn?  Find out how you can add some income through new leads.  And try not to get stuck thinking sales just happen.

7. Go to work.  If you are sitting at home worrying about income,  trying to advertise or make a new sale,  or feeling stuck,  go to work.  Find a mini-gig,  can you get paid to babysit on Sunday morning at your church nursery?  I used to sell handmade cards that I’d glued together out of magazines.  I would sell these for 50 cents to a dollar a piece to people at my church. I also sold handmade scarves. And got paid to work in the nursery,  took side babysitting jobs,  and mowed lawns.  And much more,  all through one network (my church).  Plus I had a job after school,  and was in school making money for the student council,  the prom committee or whatever else.  Consider joining more organizations,  or finding things on craigslist you can do for one night.  Why stay in alone with your husband or wife on Saturday night when you could offer three of your friends with kids a date night out and make an extra $250 bucks babysitting for one night?  Scheduling this regularly 2 times a month would add an extra $6000 worth of income a year,  and your biggest expense would be $5 little caesars pizza or free if you cook up some pasta! Plus it doesn’t matter if you are rich,  poor, old or young,  you just need to be a responsible babysitter to do this!  I suggest adding a few new “gigs” one day gigs,  try working at a concert or something fun and exciting.  These are fun free ways to generate more income.

8. Write down weekly goals. Decide what you want to do each week in terms of income and expenses.  What items are on your wishlist?  Do you want a new car?  A new software?  A new house?  Briefly write down a wishlist at the beginning of the week.  Don’t spend too much time on this. The benefit of doing this is that it will help you not fall victim to stagnancy.

9. Create a vision board on Pinterest.  Decide to live in abundance and believe that income is coming your way.  One of my favorite abundance affirmations is “I love money because money is always here for me.” I got this affirmation from reading,  You are a Badass at Making Money,  by Jen Sincero. You are a Badass at Making Money Image

In her book,  she recommends creating a vision board.  I highly recommend this book to help you get on track with your money mindset.You can follow me on Pinterest too,  I have a bunch of great boards on income and making money. 

10. Find a group to motivate you and keep you on track.  Whether this is your sales team,  your bloggers’ Facebook group,  check out my new FB Group- Start Making Money Right Now , or find a team of people you create yourself including your family,  or your fan following and then enlist others to help keep you on track.  Just like when people join support groups for losing weight,  find a support group for income generation,  and use it to the max!

Using these ten strategies will help you create success, because you will be working toward a goal,  you will feel more focused and less frazzeled and your wallet will end up fatter.  Once you’ve got your money juices flowing you can outsource the static to a virtual assistant or afford to hire someone to help with your marketing efforts,  and your marketing will end up the better for it.  Putting your energy in the right places will help you feel more successful,  and you will become a success!

Creepy Mexican Legends to Spook You This Halloween


Halloween is right around the corner and I have been having fun learning about some of the spookiest Mexican legends.

You may have guessed that as a writer and blogger of bedtime stories, that I enjoy hearing new and interesting stories! Well halloween is an awesome time of the year to learn some new ghost stories. Interestingly enough these ghost stories in Mexico are frequently told to children to get them to not go out at night and be good. Similar to the original fairy tales from along time ago, popularized by Disney and the new show Once Upon a Time.

Here are some of the more interesting Mexican ghost stories:

La Llorona

There are many different variations to this story.  The traditional story is either that a)  there was a woman who loved a man who did not love her back and she was so sad that she drowned her children and is now a ghost who steals children and turns men crazy.  B)  (the more popular version)  is that she was a woman whose home was on fire she took her children to the river and they were drowned but she didn’t find out until later and she wanders the earth stealing children.  There are many different versions of this story.

One movie that is really interesting to watch that tells this story as well as another story about The Island of the Dolls,  a supposedly haunted island in Mexico,  is the animated movie La Leyenda De La Llorna which is available with English subtitles.  My DB and I watched this a week or so ago,  and it is really cute.

La Leyenda De La Llorona

Available on Amazon for only $7.99 Very Cute!

Los Chaneques

One of the other legends is of Los Chaneques these are basically little gremlins are similar to a leprechaun,  they come and cause trouble and move things around.  If you search on YouTube you can find some really interesting videos about these little guys.

Hitchhiker and the Haunted Bus

Another legend is the hitchhiker and the haunted bus.  The hitchhiker is a legend of a woman who is picked up and tells a man where her home is.  He goes and asks about the woman only to find out she has passed on years before.  Later the men are said to die.  The Haunted bus is a legend in a town in Mexico in which an entire bus died,  now the bus comes and stops and picks up a living person,  and reveals all the passengers are deceased.  If the person goes back and sits down and exits the bus later when the bus stops,  they will live,  but if the person screams or anything they will die.

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These are some of the legends I’ve been learning about from my boyfriend who is from Mexico.  We plan to celebrate Halloween by just watching a movie. We will also leave food out on November 3rd which is the day of the dead,  or Dia De Los Muertos,  in which the belief in Mexico,  is that it is the time of the year that you are able to communicate with loved ones who has passed on.  Traditionally you leave out bread and water for your loved ones because the journey from the world of the dead is long and tiring.

Looking for a cute book to read with your kids on Halloween? If you are a lover of Big Golden Books like me, Disney’s Coco Big Golden Book is a super cute book to read with the kiddos.

coco big golden book

Halloween Date Night

Listen to scary stories via audiobook for a super scary Halloween date-night:

halloween datenight

These are my top three suggestions:

  1. NightChill By Jeff Gunhus  This is a super creepy and very intriguing audiobook, which is sure to keep you on the edge of your seat, or cuddled up with your date. It’s about a man in a race to save his daughter from pure evil! Get it on Amazon!Night-Chill-by-Jeff-Gunhus
  2. IT by Stephen King- Nothing beats listening to a super creepy story on Halloween while cuddled up with flashlights and blankets with friends, Have a chilling night in by the fire and listen to this classic scary story on Audiobook. Get it on Amazon!It-Stephen-King
  3. Creepy Stories: Encounters of the Scary Kind: True Eyewitnesses Accounts of Their Brush with the Supernatural By Roger P Mills– This is what you want if you are looking for typical scary “ghost” stories read aloud. These are perfect for a Halloween date night. Get it on Amazon!

 Creepy Stories Audiobook

Have a very happy Halloween!









Traveling to Silicon Valley California

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For the first time ever I find myself in Silicon Valley, and I am really loving it here! My first reaction when I found out that I was going to be moving with my boyfriend from Reno, Nevada to Milpitas, California was, “OMG I can’t wait!” I am still not sure if we are going to make this a permanent move, and I will be traveling back to Reno at the end of this week. My Mary Kay sales director has already hooked me up with a team out here in Cali though *awesomeness* but for now, we are only planning to be here for another few weeks.


What I love about it here in California is that they do things a little differently, for example, the movie theaters sell Indian food- and it is vegetarian! And there is a lot of great Indian food in this area, and the Chinese food is bar none, the best Chinese food I’ve had since I left China- I spent a month and a half in touring China when I was in high school, as a part of the People To People Student Ambassador Program.

Our Favorite Meal:

The Chinese place I went to was called the Golden Garlic, and when I went in, almost everyone in the restaurant was Chinese (always a good sign) and the decorations were so cute. (the pictures on Yelp are outdated and the new decor is super trendy and cute) They had a large menu of traditional Chinese fare, with vegetarian options.

These are a few photographs of what I ordered from their Yelp website, you can see the reviews here

fish with tomato sauce

Photo from Yelp


Chinese Wontons

Photo From Yelp

The fish with tomato sauce was incredible and the dumplings with chili sauce were the best I’ve ever had.

Celebrating National Kissing Day:


Also, I since my boyfriend and I regularly eat homemade chicken with mole, I decided to try ordering from Postmates, and it was amazing! We ordered fresh tortillas, chicken with mole, rice and beans, carnitas tacos, and chicken tamales delivered to our suite in the hotel, all for under $40 dollars.  The food was soo yummy! Plus it was delivered very quickly! Since it was National Kissing Day, I ordered this as a surprise breakfast in bed for my boyfriend, and it definitely got me lots of kisses!

food from postmates

you can use Promocode 1skcx the first time you order using Postmates to receive $100 in delivery credit!

If you want to learn how to make absolutely amazing Mexican food, like my boyfriend has taught me, I suggest the Mexican Everyday Cookbook by Rick Bayless. Trust me there’s nothing quite like making super yummy homemade Mexican food.

Here’s where we stayed:

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When we first arrived we spent a few nights at my favorite hotel, the Embassy Suites, which had an absolutely fabulous indoor pool with a hot tub, and an outstanding restaurant. I always love my stays at the Embassy Suites. Check out my review of the Embassy Suites in Atlanta on Youtube.

We ended up moving to and staying at the Townplace Suites in Milpitas, California, which was super comfortable and perfect for traveling for work.

If you’re looking for the perfect hotel in Silicon Valley for your family start planning your trip right now with!

What I really love about it here is the air. I am originally from Georgia, where it is very humid, and after I left Georgia, I moved to Miami and then to Nevada. In Nevada, there are a lot of new plants I had to get used to like Sagebrush, which is known to cause allergies. California is a different story. The air here is clean and it is not humid and muggy, it reminds me of the Carribean actually.

Another thing I have noticed about California that there are so many jobs available here. It literally seems like every single restaurant and store has a hiring store in the window, and not just the stores, but there are so many other jobs that are based in this area of the country.  Tons of startups, tech jobs, retail outlets, and so much more is based here. There would be no issue finding a job for someone willing to work out here. A lot of jobs that have location restrictions are available to people in this area. ! But the price of living here is pretty high, definitely something to consider before making your move out to the valley.

It really feels like the land of opportunity. I can’t wait to keep exploring here in California!

Check out the Lonely Planet California’s Best Trips (Travel Guide)  to help you plan your perfect Cali getaway!


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Becoming a Millionaire In One Year

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How do I become a millionaire in one year?

This is the question I posed to myself last month, and actually, it was more like this, “I want to be a millionaire by next year, how will I do it?”



I went for a walk, I picked up a beautiful river rock, and I wrote in Sharpie, “Make my first million dollars by June 2018.”

So I had a new goal! a new challenge! Last year I took a challenge to write 100 bedtime stories. It was an incredible and life-changing experience for me, and it really helped me to grow as a person. The 100 bedtime stories challenge, from the 100-day project, was the inspiration for this blog. It is amazing how one moment and one decision can change your life, and you can look back and say, “how could I have made it without that decision” that was what the 100-day project did for me. It really gave me inspiration for living.

Fast forward to today,

I know I want to be a millionaire, so I decided to make it a challenge.

There are so many quotes that use to remind myself of my goal, and one of my favorite quotes is

To get somewhere you have never been you must do something you have never done- Thomas Jefferson

I am going to try to document my journey to make a million dollars.

Beginning the Path to Financial Freedom:

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  1. I made the decision that I was tired of not having a million dollars and decided that I was tired of reading about people younger than me making their first million and that I wanted to be a millionaire too. DAMN IT I WANT A MILLION DOLLARS ALREADY!
  2. I wrote my goal on a rock and put it in the house where I would see it every day and be reminded that even though it is a big goal,  it is my goal.
  3. I googled “how to become a millionaire”!
  4.  I started telling everyone I know that my goal is to make a million dollars in the next year. I began announcing this publicly and asking others to join me. Part of this positive energy I attribute to a woman that I met at my last job. We started talking together, and we discussed our goals, the stock market, real estate and travel. We sat at a small table at work, and dreamed together! When is the last time you dreamed with someone? It is such an incredible feeling, and if you have not dreamed with someone lately, I highly suggest that you do it with the person you are next to at this very moment! When I first met my boyfriend, he told me that he used to have dreams, and I asked him what his dreams were. Now, every day I intentionally talk about my dreams with my boyfriend, and he talks about his dreams too. This is one of the happiest things you can do, and it is TRULY powerful. After I talked about my dreams with my coworker, I started making sales like crazy, and I ended up pushing myself to become better and leaving my old job!
  5. I knew I would need to keep making money. I continued to work a regular job, I got a job at a food stand, just to force myself to make a set amount of money every day. Now, I am working full time as a virtual assistant, and taking classes to increase my skills. These skills I use to help my clients better manage their businesses. I got the job after reading a post on the blog Real Ways to Earn Online I also recently purchased the Real Ways to Earn Online new Ebook, “How to Find Real Work From Home Jobs” and am really enjoying it!
  6. I Watched the movie, The Secret, and looked up positive affirmations. I decided to make a mental decision to switch my thinking and to let go of thinking patterns that are not in line with who I want to become. It’s also available in a hardcover version on Amazon.

* sometimes this is really difficult!  in the movie The Secret, there is a man who is shown very upset about being late, and he keeps thinking how angry he is that he is late, and in the movie, the man ends up becoming late because this is what he is thinking.

I find that I used to think way too much about how other people affected me. Now I no longer dwell on how other people affect me, in fact, I do not think about it. I am putting such positive energy into my dreams, my goals, and my efforts to positively inact change into my life, that this no longer holds me down. I have broken these chains, I am inacting change in my own life, and I am affecting my reality!

7. Thinking of million dollar ideas. I knew that I would have to come up with million dollar ideas, I could not simply work at a normal job, and save my money, to become a millionaire. Since I have set a date to become a millionaire, it is pushing me to actually go through with developing my ideas.

When was the last time you had a great idea for a business and thought you would not be able to really “do-it”. For me, this time has passed.

Now, I will be writing down my ideas, and creating action plans for bringing them to fruition.

Here’s a book to help you come up with REAL money making business ideas,

Business Ideas: 100 Starting Points to Make Money in the New Economy

Business Ideas

8. The first idea great idea I had, I latched onto it, and decided to really give it a go. I created the idea of GMMosquites Boxes, which is now in its first round of funding! I have been looking for investors for my idea. I have emailed some investors privately, and have applied at angel investing companies. You can view the company profile on Gust if you are interested in investing.  

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9. I am applying to better higher paying jobs and re-evaluating my own worth. I am great at what I do, and I am no longer listening to self-doubt. I am bringing my million dollar self to my ventures. That means brushing off insecurities and pushing myself to seek jobs with the best benefits packages, the best pay, the best situation for myself so I can be happiest and the most creative. I am offering more of my personal services to others and investing in my own education by learning new skills. I can use these at my virtual assistant job and in my entrepreneurial endeavors. Also, I completed my Mary Kay University before June 30th, and achieved the goal I set for myself. You can join my Mary Kay team by visiting my website.

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10. Pursuing my goals to own real estate. I started watching youtube videos of Grant Cardone. This guy is a genius, he helps me believe in myself, and my abilities to close big deals, he inspires me to dream of things that I have never thought possible.

11. Trying to overcome fear. Yes, I am still nervous about so many things, and navigating how to not let fear control me is a daily task, but I am so powerful that fear is only weakness, and something I am not concerned with anymore.

12. I am taking an online entrepreneur class offered by MIT. It is free, so I decided to take it.

15. I am watching videos on how to grow my social media followers and putting conscious effort into growing my following.

Update: I’ve grown my Pinterest from 1K views a month to over 25K a month by using Boardbooster!!


These are some of the actionable steps I am taking on my million-dollar challenge. This is not everything that I am doing, but this is part of what I am doing. I am lucky to have a supportive boyfriend, who inspired me to set this goal.

I asked him what it would take for him to stay home with me all day and we just have fun, and he told me “go make a million dollars”, and I said ok.

But even if you do not have loved ones who support you, you can still make it happen! I believe in you and me, and I can’t wait to achieve my goal!

Please comment below how you are making this happen for you, and other ideas on the subject and use the hashtag on social media #milliondollarchallenge or #makeyourfirstmillion 

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What are your financial goals? List them in the comments!



5 Surprising Ways Inbox Dollars Has Benefited Me Financially


I’m more excited than ever to tell you 5 Surprising Ways Inbox Dollars has Benefited me Financially, and some of these may be pretty surprising! Read on to find out more!

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I started using Inbox Dollars regularly around June of last year, along with many other survey sites. I was recovering from a financial disaster and am still in the process of recovering. It was probably about 3 or 4 years ago that I found myself in a ton of debt and pregnant with my daughter. How I got into that situation was that I had not paid my bills, because I was just too overwhelmed by misfortune that I had kind of given up trying to be financially responsible, and was only 24 anyway so I suppose I did not think it was that finances were all that important.

Once I decided I was definitely having my daughter by myself as a single mom, I worked tirelessly to pay off all my debt on a minimum wage salary and I did it. I’m officially debt free, but my credit was a whole different story. What they really need to tell be telling kids in school is how difficult it is to recover from bad credit and financial immaturity, IMO. 

** This is why I am very discerning when I recommend financial products, services, and banks. I only recommend products that I really think can help.

About one year ago I was faced with the situation that the only way to improve my credit would be to take a secured credit card with a bank. Because my score was so poor and I was so young with little credit history, it seemed to be my only option. To me, this was just the bleakest situation. I did not want to put what little money I had away into a secured credit card with a large bank.

There are two reasons I felt this way, the first is that unless you have a very good credit score, even a traditional bank will likely give you a high APR the credit cards they offer you, and second, you are straddling yourself to your low credit score. If you can either wait for all the negatives to fall off or find offers from smaller banks, then grow your credit score, you will then be in a situation later on in life to receive the awesome APR offers and loans, but applying and getting credit when you’re in a credit dump, could have longer-term effects than simply waiting for anything bad to age off your score.

Fast forward to this year and I’m ready to tell you 4 Surprising Ways that Inbox Dollars has benefitted my financial situation.

1. I was able to find unsecured credit card offers for people with bad credit. Even when I am in a bad situation, I really do not like to have to compromise on what I truly want. I wanted to improve my credit with an unsecured line of credit. The interesting thing about some of these credit cards, is that they actually are a good deal *** When you are in need of improving your credit score*** I am not saying they do not have annual fees, and initial cost and a high APR, but unlike some of the popular secured cards on the market which may not allow you to increase your credit limit EVER, some of the ones featured in the inbox dollars offers do have the option to allow you to ask for a credit limit increase. This is an important feature to me. Another thing I like about these cards is that they do help you improve your credit score by reporting your use each month. I got the Total Visa and the First Access Visa Card. Basically, it was not until I really started paying attention to my offers that I found what I was personally looking for. Now my credit score has risen over 100 pts! boomnettingBy paying on time and usually in full every month for a year, I was able to bring up my score over a hundred points!

2. After about 3 months of paying my secured cards,  I opened a Secured Visa Card from a smaller bank, because I knew I would be approved and wasn’t risking a hard pull. The secured visa card that I got was the First Progress Visa Card. It’s from Synovus Bank, which is a smaller bank in Georgia. There are mixed reviews about this card, but as I said I did not want to get a secured card from a traditional bank. One reason and I don’t know if this is accurate, but I want to wait to open larger accounts with higher starting limits at the larger banks, so I am waiting until my score improves to apply for nonsecured cards at larger banks, which I am hoping will help me secure lower interest rates in the future. I personally like my First Progress Card, but if you need access to your funds fast, this may not be the card for you, as there is a TEN day waiting period if you pay over the phone before you can access your funds. Plus they charge $10 to pay over the phone. Personally, I am willing to pay fees for convenience purposes for myself, and I do not like paying fees for things like monthly maintenance when I don’t feel like I am receiving personalized services etc from the banks. So I don’t mind this charge, and I am glad to have this card and am looking to get unsecured credit lines from Synovus in the future, like the Synovus Travel Rewards Credit Card which offers “5x points on up to $5,000 annually in net spend for travel purchases, including hotel, airlines, car rental, and vacation package, 3x points on up to $3,000 in net spend quarterly for purchases in a Dynamic Earn Category of your choice, and 1x points on all eligible purchases, with no limit on the points you can earn”Synovus Travel Rewards Card More about the First Progress Visa: They say that you can pay online via bill pay and there is not a hold on your funds, but I never pay this way, so I don’t have experience. If you decide to use this card, for the purposes that I did, to receive a secured card from a smaller bank, I highly recommend this card, as you can deposit an amount you choose, and they quickly report it to the credit bureaus. They are offering a $100 dollar statement credit for referring new members, which should cover some of the high APR costs and payment costs you’ve made to your account.

First Progress

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3. Another surprising thing I have found just today on Inbox Dollars is a savings account that offers 5% APY! This is the same rate as CD accounts at some banks! How did I find this offer?  I decided to take advantage of two of Inbox Dollars offers and earn an extra $2 for completing 2 offers. This was a special promotion that they are running right now. I chose the Netspend Visa and the Rush Card offers. I had been hesitant to sign up for these offers before, because of a bad experience with the GreenDot prepaid card, which left a sour taste in my mouth on all prepaid cards. But I wanted to increase my earnings to over $40 by the end of June, which I have done (Yeay! I completed my goal today!!), so I thought what the heck- just do it. Well, after I signed up for my NetSpend account I went to the website to find out what the dealio is. Apparently, once you complete direct deposit totaling over $500 in a month, you are automatically in their premium client services, which includes a savings account that gives you 5%APY on all your money over $1,000 that you keep daily in their savings account. All money $1,000 and less kept in your savings account earns you 4.9%APY. WHAT?? that is awesome. Especially since my main goal right now is savings!! and to earn that type of savings, simply by direct depositing into my bank account is, well AWESOME!.

4. When researching Inboxdollars, I read an article that basically said, you do not need to try to log on every day to benefit from using Inboxdollars, the recommendation from the article I read, said to just let the emails amass throughout the week, then check them once a week and in a year you will earn (I can’t remember the exact number) ~$14 if you ONLY check your emails. This was probably the best advice I’ve gotten on how to take advantage of the site. Actually this advice, surprisingly, has increased my earnings this go around. I’ll be getting over $40 dollars this time I cash out, and it has just basically been something I do not think about too much. So, in the past year, I will have earned over $70 dollars with inboxdollars, not bad for me considering how little I am actively participating in income-producing activities on the site. I look my inboxdollars earnings like I’m earning interest in a savings account. The Paid Emails basically are my earned interest on my daily emails. And I rarely actually check them through my email account, I usually check them on the inboxdollars website.

5. I’ve found some really good deals through the site on entertainment, food and other services. I found out about a couple great services I enjoy using, like SundanceNow. Also, I’ve found other ways to increase my income each month with different websites per recommendations from Inboxdollars. I love that it recommends services that actually save me money or increase my current income.

Basically, a lot of people talk about how it is a way to increase your income, but for me inbox dollars has done more than that, it has helped me be able to bounce back from some seriously difficult life situations and help me gain more financial freedom. Thinking of the emails as savings day in and day out has helped me constantly every day to think about savings. It’s almost become my own an email accountability partner, reminding me to set daily earnings goals, and helping me every day reinforce in my mind the importance of savings, and generating passive income. If you’re on the fence about signing up or maybe you have quit using this survey site, I really encourage you to try inboxdollars or give it another look, because it is actually helpful.


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Children and Spirituality: Book Recommendations



Children and Spirituality: Book Recommendations

Guest Post

written by:  Rev. Heather Baggett, M.Div., BCC  contact:

As new parents, we have a lot to worry about when it comes to raising these tiny human beings entrusted to our care. Should we breastfeed or formula feed or both? When should we start solids? Should I let her cry it out or should I soothe her to sleep? Do I need to start baby Einstein at 3 months so my child doesn’t end up behind when they start pre-k?

For some of us, spirituality is another one of those worries. For me, spirituality is anything that connects to the greater universe and each other – this can take the form of various religions or it can be more nebulous “spiritual practices” but, if asked, most of us would say we wanted our child to grow up to be spiritually healthy – even if we might not really know what that looks like.

Now, I am an ordained priest in the Episcopal Church and a board-certified chaplain so I probably worry more about my daughter’s spirituality than some. Today, I wanted to share some of the best books I have found for young children that help them explore their spiritual selves. I am going to split them into a few categories. The first is going to be straight-up Christian centered books. Then a few “theistic” books, and then a few books about spirituality in general that are not specific to any religious traditions.

Christian Books

children of God

Children of God Storybook Bible by Archbishop Desmond Tutu

This children’s Bible includes more than 50 stories from both the New Testament and the Old Testament. It is written in a wonderfully expressive way that invites kids (and even some adults) into the stories. However, I think my favorite part might be the illustrations. Archbishop Desmond Tutu recruited artists from cultures all over the world to illustrate the stories in a way that was authentic to their culture. There are so many vibrant and beautiful illustrations in this Bible.

Throughout the stories the idea of “God’s Dream” for God’s people is repeated, allowing for a common theme to weave as you read story after story. This book is geared towards ages 4-8. However, we have already started the tradition of reading one story to our 7-month-old every night before bed. She will grow into the stories.

Jesus the word

Jesus, the Word by Mark Francisco Bozzuti-Jones

This is a beautifully lyrical book that traces the story of the second person of the Trinity – Jesus – throughout the Bible, even in the Old Testament when all we can identify Jesus as is the “Word”.

This book will resonate especially with Christians of liturgical traditions as one of the repeated refrains is a variation on the Nicene creed. That is not to say that it is not a wonderful and inspiring book for Christians of any stripe.

You may soon realize that I LOVE a well-illustrated book because I cannot say enough about the wonderful and evocative illustrations that Shelly Hehenberger created to go along with Bozzuti-Jones inspiring words. This is one of my all-time favorite books as an adult and I have read it as a sermon (for adults) before. Again, this is geared towards children aged 4 and up. However, I read it to my daughter knowing she will grow into.

God-Centered Religions

What is gods name

What is God’s Name? by Sandy Eisenberg Sasso

This beautiful book asks the question, “What is God’s name?” The person who takes care of sheep calls God Shepherd. The woman nursing her child calls Godmother. The lonely child calls God friend. In the end, they realize that God is all of these things and more.

The simple statements, beautiful imagery, and cultural diversity of both the words and the illustration make this a great book to introduce God to children. It gives the parent a chance to ask their child how they see God and talk about how and why different people see God in different ways.

Another great thing is that this book is a board book. It is geared towards ages 2-4. They read it, they can chew it, they can throw it. Three-in-one!

 old turtle

Old Turtle by Douglas Wood

This book is similar to “What is God’s name?” but is geared towards a slightly older child. In it, all the beings of the universe can communicate with one another. Eventually, an argument breaks out. The island says God is vast and alone. The mountain says God is strong and still. The breeze says God is swift and silent. Eventually, Old Turtle settles the argument saying God is all of those things. Finally, people come and must learn the same lesson from the world all around them.

This is an especially appropriate book if you teach your child care for the environment and care for the creatures of God’s earth – human included.

This book is geared towards ages 4-8.

old turtle and the broken truth

Old Turtle and the Broken Truth by Douglas Wood

You might look at this one and say, “Wait, didn’t we just see Old Turtle?” Yes, you did but this second book is so good I couldn’t only mention the first. In this book humanity finds a truth – “You are special”. They fight wars over this truth, and it is won and lost and won and lost over and over again. Until one day a little girl realizes the truth is broken and travels to see Old Turtle. Old Turtle gives her the other half of the broken truth.

It is a hard journey back and she is much changed when she returns but eventually, she gets people to see the other half of the broken truth (I am not going to tell you what that is here – read the book and find out).

This book is geared towards ages 4-8.


General Spirituality

I wonder

I Wonder by Annaka Harris

This is a great story to help children ask questions about the world around them and to wonder at where things came from and their place in the universe. It teaches that “I don’t know” is a wonderful answer because it gives us a chance to wonder about something, whether by ourselves or with others.

While no specific religious undertones are present in this book, I think that it is an extremely spiritual book in that it teaches us how to approach the world around in a way that allows us to see meaning and amazement and connection. What better way to build our spirituality?

This book is geared towards age 1 and up.

Good Morning Yoga and Good Night Yoga by Mariam Gates

good morning yoga        good night yoga

These books are pose-by-pose stories to help children wake up and fall asleep. Each also includes a meditation. The Good Morning book meditation is about choosing how you are going to approach the day and making a conscious choice about what emotions you are going to bring to the day. The Good Night book has a meditation to help your child fall asleep.

For many of us, spirituality begins with mindfulness and meditation as ways to feed our souls and help us to connect the people and the world around us. These books are a great way to start the habits of meditation and mindfulness early with the added benefit of encouraging daily activity.

These books are geared towards ages 4-8.

While this is by no means an exhaustive list of books that can help introduce your child to spirituality, they are a great place to start! I’d love to hear of any books that you all have found and loved in the comments!


Release Genetically Modified Mosquitoes Yourself. Why I want to Make this Possible


I want my readers to know why I want to make releasing genetically modified mosquitoes a possibility for the average person. Yes, it could be possible, with support and financial backers! *contact me by email if you are interested in backing this project!

As some of my readers may know, I used to live in Miami, Florida. I lived in Miami for only about 3 months. When I was living there I would regularly see signs warning women to wear bug spray to protect themselves against the Zika Virus. If you do not know much about this virus it is a virus that can cause babies to be born with a birth defect causing their heads to be too small.


This is terribly scary for a mother or women trying to get pregnant since the Zika virus attacks the embryo during the first trimester, when many women are not even yet aware that they are pregnant.

Zika Virus

All of this information is from a TED talk I recently watched by Nina Fedoroff, Watch her explain it here, she does an AMAZING job! 

There is bad news about the Zika Virus and then there is more actual bad news via the media regarding the Zika Virus. First, there is currently not a vaccination for the virus. Second, there is no real way to protect yourself, because Bug Spray is not reliable unless you coat yourself in it every single day.

Then comes even more bad news, the sprays that they are releasing in cities, do not work to kill the mosquitoes, and instead are killing helpful bumblebees. 😦

Here’s the catch, there IS a proven method to kill mosquitoes, which not only kills mosquitoes carrying the Zika Virus, but mosquitoes carrying other viruses like dengay fever.

Learn more about the Zika Virus by reading

Zika: The Emerging Epidemic by New York Times science reporter Donald G. McNeil Jr.


What is this proven method? Genetically Modified Mosquitoes, these mosquitoes basically are not able to produce viable offspring so the mosquito population dies, and then humans cannot be infected because there are not anymore annoying bloodsuckers to infect them!

Wow, this sounds amazing, perhaps beside the name, “Genetically Modified Mosquitoes”  Genetically modified just means that they were created or changed inside a lab.

Actually, it has been proven that they cause NO harm to people. But what does endanger humans is the mosquitoes.

Well, the only good news about this whole situation is that the FDA is currently in charge of regulating these Genetically Modified Mosquitoes, however, currently, there these Genetically Modified Mosquitoes are not being sold or packaged for sale to the average person.

Did you know you can purchase boxes of beneficial bugs right from your local plant nursery? Yes you can! and these “beneficial bugs” either kill the bad bugs or the benefical bugs help to enrich the soil. They may not be created in a lab or altered by science, but they provide the same positive solution to the buyer.


These Beneficial Nematodes are available from Green State Gardner 

So why should women and their husbands or significant others not be able to receive the benefit for their children to be protected from the Zika Virus, it is simply because the solution does not technically exist.

Hence, why I am asking for financial backers and supporters of my endeavor to get these boxes of Genetically Modified Mosquitoes available to be sold to the public, then people would be able to release them of their own free will in their residences and on their property, ensuring the safety of themselves and their children.


What’s more, I propose that a part of this business solution would be to donate one box to a family in a developing country where they would not be able to pay for these life saving beneficial bugs.

Families would benefit from the peace of mind of knowing that their purchase of these beneficial bugs, Genetically Modified Mosquitoes, would help save lives in other countries that are torn apart by disease and lack of clean water.

I simply believe that it should be up to the consumer to purchase what is most helpful to protect themselves and their families just like how you can purchase and release bugs in your garden now, and I believe that creating a company to make these boxes is the best solution and one that will help the world.

Please show your support by leaving your opinions below, retweeting, and sharing this article with your friends and families. Once I have the crowdfunding site set up I will be able to begin accepting donations to begin production, liscensing and business development.

Please be a part of this awesome solution to the Zika Virus threat.